But ... we are ginormous - and there is this huge HR machine. The company is teaming with HR folk.
In order to sign up my 'legal' wife on my benefits, even tho we have a legal marriage certificate, I still need to have papers notarized and show 'proof' of our relationship.
If I were married to a man I would need to show no proof at all. I would simply jot his name down on the web-form and click Submit.
Fine... fine... I'm gay... ok ok.
So I am making copies today... and I prepared a letter:
Attn: Benefits Team
Please find the enclosed documents:
Please note we have owned this home together for 21 years. We are listed as each others primary beneficiary on every account we have, we have joint bank accounts as well as credit cards, and our wills show each other to be the primary recipient. And our children refer to us as their ‘parents’.
- a notarized copy of the Domestic Partnership Affidavit
- and as proof of partnership I provide:
- a copy of our valid/notarized Connecticut marriage license
- a copy of our drivers licenses showing our common address
- a real estate tax statement showing both our names on our property
Sadly, married same sex couples need to further prove their commitment past a legal marriage document. A document, which by the way, is not required at all when claiming an opposite sex marriage.
Please let me know if you need any other information from me.